According to a story on PerezHilton.com, the three remaining “Golden Girls” cast members, Bea Arthur, Betty White and Rue McClanahan, did not attend the funeral of recently departed Estelle Getty. Apparently, Getty’s son Carl spoke with “Inside Edition,” saying, “They would certainly have been welcome. I don’t know why they wouldn’t be attending mom’s funeral. Maybe it’s a painful thing…As for the rest of them you’re going to have to ask them how they felt about it and why they did or didn’t come.”
So, Inside Edition contacted the girls. Arthur said she skipped because she’d already grieved and made her peace with Getty’s illness in the past few years. McClanahan said she couldn’t travel (she lives in NYC) because of recent surgery and White was not available to comment, although she did send a flower arrangement to the funeral.
Some people might think they were assholes for not attending, but as someone who’s lost more loved ones and friends than I dare to count, I have to say “fuck off” to the naysayers. No one has the right to judge how another person grieves. I know several funerals I’d rather have skipped, but went basically to keep up appearances. And that’s dumb. If sitting in the privacy of your own home, crying or laughing or whatever, is the way you grieve/remember the life of a loved one, then that’s your business and anyone with an opinion about that needs to STFU. Period.